Recently (like 3 year olds do) my girl had a meltdown…and of course it had to be in public. We average between 1-2 tantrums a day in my home. And then Heidi has about 2-3 What can I say being 26 is hard 😜. But this time seemed to be worse. Standing in the checkout line I was surrounded by people who the majority had no idea what it was like to wrangle a hungry, tired, bored kiddo. The judgmental stares were enough to make me want to crawl into a hole. After we left, it changed the course of my thoughts for the rest of the day.
I felt embarrassed, defeated, and angry. But ultimately like a failure. Satan knows just where to get me. I found myself with a “they’ll see attitude”. They’ll see when they’re a parent. They’ll see how crazy kids can be. They’ll see that sometimes you can’t always get a sitter. They’ll see that life isn’t always about them. They’ll see that kids are sticky, messy, loud, and sometimes gross. PS this is not an attitude of love/grace, its an attitude of karma/justice. I know it’s hard to see past the judgement of others. I also know its hard to not wish bad upon the people that hurt us. I struggle with it too. But I don’t want to live my life in angry revenge mode. And you shouldn’t either. For the mama’s who are past this stage, lend a hand, ear, words of wisdom, but whatever you do, do it in love & try to remember that you had hard days too. For the yet to be mama’s — don’t judge. It hurts far beyond that moment that you’ve quickly forgotten about. Lastly, for the mama’s with littles, YOU ARE A GOOD MOM. I know you love your babe(s) unconditionally. I also know you’re doing the best your can. Don’t let the opinion of others tell you differently. You’ve got this!